There are certain people in life that you can depend on. They are authentic, and they have the courage of their convictions. You know that whatever you ask them, it will be done to the best of their ability. Every word that comes out of their mouths is carefully considered, and every one of their deeds matches their words. These type of people are rare, but they are out there.
You believe in them, without a shred of doubt.
In my opinion, there is one simple secret to their “believability.” It is something that they have probably struggled with in the past, and something that they may well struggle with in the future. For someone to believe in them, they just have to believe in themselves.
Not the sort of “yeah, I think I can do it” belief, but the “hell yeah, no problem” kind.
That is not easy. Self-belief is equally built from the present and the past, with one (often fearful) eye on the future. When I need to top up my self-belief “tank”, there is nothing that I like better than reading the odd motivational quote to get me thinking about how it is relevant to my life. You might be sick of people posting these on social media, but at the right time, for the right person, they can be incredibly powerful.
So, believe in yourself and simultaneously “make” others believe. They will, you’ll see.
I don’t do this often, but it is a topic close to my heart, so I thought I would share a few of my favourite quotes on self-belief. When doubt creeps into my mind, these are just a few of the words that I remember:
“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” Mark Twain
“Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.” Eleanor Roosevelt
“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.” Maxwell Maltz
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
“People may flatter themselves just as much by thinking that their faults are always present to other people’s minds as if they believe that the world is always contemplating their individual charms and virtues.” Elizabeth Gaskell
“Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.” Malcolm S. Forbes
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance” Oscar Wilde
“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” Carl Gustav Jung
“The better you feel about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off.” Robert Hand
“Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” George Eliot
There are many more quotes, but, as I sit here on a Saturday afternoon, wondering about the next steps for my wonderful family, these sayings make my heart swell and my mind focus.
My kids believe in their Daddy. My wife believes in her husband.
I’ll do my best to repay that belief. To start with, I’ll choose to believe in myself.
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