There are two types of situations in life – those that you can influence and those that you can’t. For those that you can’t influence, hope is the only refuge. However, in many cases you can do more than you think to ensure a positive outcome.
You can’t make your football team win after they go four goals behind, no matter how hard you shout at the television. You have no influence on the decisions of the manager or the actions of the players. Hope is all you have.
When a relative or friend is having an important operation in hospital, or may have fallen ill, you can, of course, offer moral support, but unless you are a surgeon or a doctor there is not much you can do to help them get better. You hope and pray for the best.
You have belief in your daughter that she won’t fall over at the ballet recital; after all, she practices a lot to minimize the risk. She needs confidence in herself to know that she can do it. If she is hoping that she won’t topple after that first pirouette, then you still have something to worry about. But hey, she is your daughter, you believe in her, right?
When you get married, you look into your partner’s eyes and believe that you will live a long and happy life together. You know that this requires love, commitment, and understanding, but at the moment you say “I do” you are prepared to move heaven and earth to make them happy.
Hope vs. Belief
If you are the sort of person to go out there and squeeze the juices out of life, then this blog is not for you. This blog is for the majority of us (myself included) with the nagging doubts, those who have maybe taken one too many knocks in life…. with thoughts of “am I really good enough for this?”
I mainly write recruitment blogs, so I’ll draw a few parallels in this direction, but essentially this can be relevant for anyone in any situation where feelings of helplessness might start to surface. It will be fine; you can find belief within you; it is there if you look hard enough.
Hope In Your Job Search
You’ve lost your job; you’re surplus to requirements – they don’t need you and can get on perfectly well without you. You’ve got your box of belongings, everything that constituted your “home from home” for nine hours per day for the last three years. You’ve said goodbye to your pseudo-family, probably forever, and you walk out onto the street. Part of your identity has been ripped from you, leaving a great big hole. Pretty bleak, right? Wow, I “hope” you will be ok.
Well, the cold and hard fact is that you will be ok. You will find a new job. It may even be better than the last one. There are tens of thousands of people, like you, who have lost their job today also. Within a month or two they will be proudly updating their LinkedIn profiles, starting their new lives and leaving their job hunt trauma in the past. Hope doesn’t come into it. I know that you will find a job. I know that you will be ok in the end. The big question is…. Do you believe?
Job searching is a process. There are certain ways to do things – activity leads to results. It is a pause in your life where you can reassess things; get yourself back on track and in control of your life again. If you hope that the phone will ring, you have no chance. Yes, sitting on the sofa eating comfort food and watching daytime TV is tempting, but there is nothing better than putting yourself out there and seeing what the big wide world has in store for you.
So, to go back to the ballet analogy. You might fall a few times in practice, and you’ll probably feel a little sorry for yourself. However, every time you pick yourself up, your belief that you can do it grows a little.…. you learn a little more about yourself. Soon you will be gracefully leaping across the stage and into your next job.
Job hunting is entirely in your hands. Make it happen. Believe.
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